Friday, January 10, 2014

Is Moderation the Key - Even with Praise for Kids Who Need It?

When working with hurt or traumatized kids it's easy to fall into the habit of trying to re build their self esteem by heaping on the praise every chance you get.   Recent studies show that for kids with low self-esteem, the Over-the Top praise you might think is helping, is actually backfiring on you!

According to the study done at Ohio State, inflated praise put too much pressure on kids with low self-esteem, and therefore translated into the children being afraid to fail at subsequent efforts. 

How does this effect you? Well, It means that when working with your kids with low self-esteem, keep your praise positive, encouraging, and realistic.

Check out the article below to learn more about the study:  from Psych Central

Inflated Praise Can Harm Kids With Low Self-Esteem

By Associate News Editor
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on January 4, 2014 
New research suggests that parents and adults who heap the highest praise on children with low self-esteem are most likely hurting the children with their over-the-top compliments.
Researchers found that while children with high self-esteem seem to thrive with inflated praise, those with low self-esteem actually shrink from new challenges when adults go overboard on praising them.
“Inflated praise can backfire with those kids who seem to need it the most — kids with low self-esteem,” said Eddie Brummelman, lead author of the study and a visiting scholar at The Ohio State University in autumn 2013 and now a doctoral student in psychology at Utrecht University in The Netherlands.
For this study, scientists identified inflated praise as those including an adverb (such as “incredibly”) or adjective (such as “perfect”) signaling a very positive evaluation. For example, “you’re good at this” was simple praise, while “you’re incredibly good at this” was considered inflated praise, the researchers explained.
In one of three related studies, Brummelman and his colleagues found that adults gave twice as much inflated praise to children identified as having low self-esteem compared to those children with high self-esteem.
In another study, 114 parents (88 percent mothers) participated with their child. Several days before the experiment, children completed a measure to determine their level of self-esteem.
Then, during an observation at their homes, the parents administered 12 timed math exercises to their child. Afterwards, the parents scored how well their child did on the tests. The sessions were videotaped, and the researchers were not in the room.
Watching the videotape, the researchers counted how many times the parent praised their child, and classified praise as inflated or non-inflated. The most common inflated praise statements included “You answered very fast!” and “Super good!” and “Fantastic!”
The most common non-inflated praise statements included “You’re good at this!” and “Well done!”
Results showed that parents praised their children about six times during the session, and about 25 percent of the praise was inflated, the researchers reported.
The parents gave more inflated praise to children with low self-esteem than they did to children with high self-esteem, the researchers added.
“Parents seemed to think that the children with low self-esteem needed to get extra praise to make them feel better,” said Brad Bushman, Ph.D., co-author of the study and professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State.
“It’s understandable why adults would do that, but we found in another experiment that this inflated praise can backfire in these children.”
In this other experiment, 240 children drew a famous van Gogh painting, “Wild Roses,” and then received inflated, non-inflated or no praise in the form of a note from someone identified as a “professional painter.”
After receiving the note, the children were told they were going to draw other pictures, but they could choose which ones they would copy. They were told they could choose pictures that were easy to do, “but you won’t learn much.” Or they could choose to draw more difficult pictures in which “you might make many mistakes, but you’ll definitely learn a lot too.”
According to the researchers, children with low self-esteem were more likely to choose the easier pictures if they received inflated praise. By contrast, children with high self-esteem were more likely to choose the more difficult pictures if they received inflated praise.
These results suggest that inflated praise may put too much pressure on those with low self-esteem, Brummelman said.
“If you tell a child with low self-esteem that they did incredibly well, they may think they always need to do incredibly well,” he said. “They may worry about meeting those high standards and decide not to take on any new challenges.”
The lesson may be that parents and adults need to fight the urge to give inflated praise to children with low self-esteem, Bushman said.
“It goes against what many people may believe would be most helpful,” Bushman said. “But it really isn’t helpful to give inflated praise to children who already feel bad about themselves.”
The study was published in the journal Psychological Science.
Source: The Ohio State University

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