by John and Diane.
It is almost more complicated than the lyrics to the 12 days of Christmas.
How do you make sure that all your foster kids get an equal amount of presents?
Some foster kids have biological parents in the picture that will give them gifts, some bio parents wont. Some foster kids don’t have parents, some get a lot of gifts from organizations…how, at the end of the day, can you try to keep it all even so that none of the kids are sad and upset on Christmas morning?
I have been a foster Dad for a long time, and I think I have gone through every variable of this problem. Here are some of the things you can do ahead of time to be ready for anything.
Talk to the Foster Child’s Parents:
· Always talk to the child’s parents to see what they are planning to do for Christmas on gifts and where the child is going to wake up Christmas morning.
· Try not to make them feel uncomfortable. Sometimes money is a problem, so if you can help I encourage you to always try to. This helps you get along with the child’s parents, builds trust with them and should help in reuniting the child with them later, if that is the plan.
The Back Up Plan
Now let’s say you did all that, and even after you have talked to the child’s parents they didn’t come through with the gifts they said they were going to pick up. This is why I have a backup plan.
· Always keep some extra gifts hidden away just in case you have to even-up the gifts under the tree. If you don’t, thank God that everything went the way you planned and now you have Birthday presents!
Winter Break Plans
The last thing you have to remember is Winter Break plans.
Where is the child going to be after Christmas for the winter break? Remember school will be out for about 10 days to 14 are there trips you might want to go on. Do his or her parents have trips or over-night visits planned?
So get together and be ready to ask a lot of questions of the other parents and have answers for them about what you’re going to do. This will go a long way towards you having a great holiday with your foster child instead of one full of chaos and last minute crisis’.
Beside the first gift God gave to man, I know, you all think I’m going to say women, right? Sorry, but the first Christmas gift given to man was Christ’s’ presences and I think that is why we say “Christmas presents” to remind us every time whose Birthday it really is.
He came in the world like a child, so remember, you never know who you may be caring for in your home as a foster child…